How to Communicate with Passed Loved Ones and Get Clear Answers

By Sarah Kulkens™ – Psychic, Medium, and Spiritual Guide
Have you ever felt your loved one near after they’ve passed? Maybe a sudden scent, a familiar song on the radio, or a warm sensation in your chest?
Communicating with loved ones beyond the veil is not only possible, it’s healing. When done with the right intention and technique, it can bring clarity, comfort, and deep spiritual insight.
Here’s a gentle, practical guide to help you open that sacred channel and receive messages with meaning and clarity.
Prepare Your Energy
Before you begin, it’s essential to create a safe and sacred space. Here’s how:
- Ground yourself – Close your eyes, take deep breaths, and visualise roots growing from your feet into the Earth.
- Cleanse your space – Burn sage, light incense, or use sound (like bells or a singing bowl).
- Set your intention – Say something like,
“I welcome only loving, clear messages from those in Spirit who wish to help me.”
Check your emotions – If you’re feeling overwhelmed or scattered, wait until you’re calm and centred.

Choose Your Method
You don’t need to be a trained medium. There are many ways to receive messages:
✨ Tarot or Oracle Cards
Ask questions like:
- “What message does my loved one have for me today?”
- “What should I know about this decision?”
✨ Automatic Writing
- Sit quietly with a pen and paper.
- Ask a question.
- Write whatever flows for 5–10 minutes—don’t edit.
- Come back later and reflect on what came through.
✨ Pendulum
- Calibrate what “yes” and “no” look like first.
- Ask clear yes/no questions like: “Are you here with me?” or “Do you have guidance for me today?”
✨ Your Inner Senses
You may see images, feel emotions, or hear phrases. Trust your first impressions, your spirit often speaks softly.

Ask the Right Questions
Clarity comes from clear questions. Here are some tips:
- Start simple:
“Are you with me now?”
“Do you have a message for me?” - Ask for signs:
“Can you show me a rose if this is you?”
“Play your favourite song today if you’re near.” - Avoid complicated or emotionally loaded questions. Keep it gentle and respectful.

Receive and Interpret the Message
Spirit speaks in many ways:
- Feelings – warmth, peace, sudden emotion.
- Images – a memory, symbol, or loved one’s face.
- Dreams – these can be obvious messages.
- Signs – repeated numbers, animals, songs, or words.
Write everything down. Review later. Ask yourself:
Does this feel like them? Does the message bring love and clarity?

Close the Session
- Thank your loved one for their presence.
- Visualise closing the spiritual doorway.
- Cleanse again if needed.
- Rest, drink water, and ground your energy.
- Journal your experience.
A Final Word
Remember: love doesn’t end with death, it transforms.
When you approach Spirit with sincerity, calm, and love, you’ll begin to hear the subtle messages waiting to be received. Don’t rush. Trust the process.
If you need guidance, clarity, or a deeper connection, I’m here to help through personal readings, classes, or spiritual mentoring.
With light and blessings always,
Sarah Kulkens™